How to Trust When It Comes to Cocaine Usage?

Question by Dazed: How to trust when it comes to cocaine usage?
My boyfriend has admitted to occasional cocaine usage (a few times over a 6+month time span). I wonder how to trust him again? He recently has gone out with friends and “drank too much”. He slept almost the entire day after he went out, ate lunch and dinner and was very tired/cranky/irritable/short fused/guilty feeling. This is the second morning after he went out and we both went to bed at the same time last night but he woke up again very irritable and “blah” for lack of a better term. He is not really a morning person but went back to bed and is now working on 3.75 more hours of sleep than I got and I’m hoping he gets back up in a much better mood. These all seem like the emotional roller coaster ride that we were on prior to me finding out the first time. How do you really know/trust again? What other signs/symptoms do I watch for? Can you really do it a few times and never again if you continue to hang out with other who still use?
I should have mentioned that we have a child together and in addition to the “POSSIBLE” usage of cocaine alcohol is another issue. We have been on this roller coaster ride for 4+years and I will NOT proceed without counseling! I wonder if an alcohol hangover can give you the same effects of coming down from a cocaine high? I know he definitely has a problem with one and possibly both and I know that if I have to question if it’s a problem it probably is! He has actually agreed to counseling. We are both well educated people with great families but WOW….if people really knew what others are dealing with in their suburban homes! Thank you all so much for your great responses:)

Best answer:

Answer by George Vandean
Guaranteed: He will use again. Its a long road to recovery and being near someone using is the wrong road.
Its up to you to stay and deal with it or move on to a better life.

Answer by ~Kal~
I think you should talk to him about it and let him know its making you uncomfortable. I dont think any drug addiction is beneficial. I cant say i havent gone through a stage myself and an addiction to some type of drug, it does happen to a lot of us, but i do believe, especially if his moods coming down or on a substance are affecting those around him, including you. talk to him calmly about it though, and maybe if he refuses to acknowledge he has a problem, bring it up with a superior figure in a “hypothetical” situation for some advice. But you dont want to push him away.

If he refuses help then maybe it would be best for you to distance yourself from him
And u have all the symptoms down well, theres really not much else. can cause anxiety in some people too

Rob Anders' Shooting Range Photo Sparks Controversy, Debate
President Barack Obama has admitted to smoking marijuana and using cocaine <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2008/02/09/us/politics/09obama.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0">during his high school and college days</a>. …. After being fired from Bear Sterns in …
Read more on Huffington Post Canada

Canadian vending machines now sell crack pipes
Vending machines selling crack cocaine pipes for 25 cents (about 14 pence) have been erected in Vancouver, Canada. The purpose of the two machines, established by the Portland Hotel Society, … While the NDP and Liberals would prefer that doctors hand …
Read more on Metro

Legalizing pot would be good for NJ: Opinion
He considers marijuana “a gateway drug to other drugs, such as cocaine and heroin, as well as addiction and substance abuse.” However, scientists dismissed the notion of the gateway theory years ago, and study after … Yet, under prohibition they …
Read more on NJ.com