Drug Addict Ex Boyfriend?

Question by dior_84: drug addict ex boyfriend?
My ex bf began taking cocaine at age 10 as well as drinking and having sex. His parents sent him to a rehab in grade 9 but when he got out he became a dealer and ended up doing time in jail. When he got out he went back to his old ways and ended up leaving a bad breakup of a 3yr relationship/family/friends all behind due to owing people money and the consequences he’d face if he stayed.
He moved back to the city where we went to school 10 years later and begged to take me on a date. I was hesitant because he was so bad as a kid and we weren’t friends but I eventually went and fell in love. Their were so many ups and downs in the relationship taking money from me, selling his possessions ect. I stuck by him no matter how long he went without talking to me or what he did. I would do anything I could to show how much I cared, gifts, taking him out because he had no $ no job, cards, letters you name it I tried it. I took him on a carribean vacation and a week after we got home I was waiting for him to come over and he broke up with me when I called to ask where he was. For almost a month he’d call me on wknds saying he called me by accident b*tch and hang up. When I finally received a nice call he told me he was trying to make me hate him, it was his plan, he had wanted me to tell him to F off, but all I ever said were nice things and he couldn’t understand why I want to talk to him. Things had been good for about 2 months minus the fact he was still hard into cocaine/drinking that of which come before anything else any chance he gets. He always will choose going on benders with his friends over seeing me or any other normal activity. We were talking about what good terms we were on and planning a summer vacation a few days ago when 2 days later I call him and he txts saying “I have a girlfriend” when I called him he was with his friends prob 3 days without sleep on a drug/alch spree, I was so shocked and upset, he just told me not to call him, stay the F away from his family ect. I don’t believe he has a gf because I know him well enough to know we wouldn’t have spoke for the last few months if that was the case. I just don’t understand how addicts can abrubtly change their minds so quick and lash out for NO reason! I am so hurt and not stupid, I am not happy when we are together because all he wants to do is drugs or drink (which I only drink) but when I am apart from him or know he wont speak to me I am so upset, it hurts to see him do this to himself.. what should I do?
He always says things like ” i wont be around for long” “everyone knows ill die from drugs or alchohol” “i dont want to stop doing cocaine, its just who i am” “when hes doing the drug he says he doesnt care about ne thing else except continuing to party” he eventually calms down when the high is over but he paces around cant sit still mumbles, looks through windows freaks out its so scary 🙁

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Answer by the great five star General
that is so very very********thing i have heard,take him out!!!

Answer by Hot Mama
My God-you got your hands full! I understand you care and love this man but remember there is a very fine line between love and pity. Consider reading a book on co-dependency. You sound like a very caring person-find someone who will appreciate your love next time. This guy won’t get any help until he is ready. Sounds like he may have been abused or neglected as a child to me. But he is TOO much of a mess for you to help him. Sorry to say. Let him go use someone else.

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