Dumped by a Drug Addict?

Question by Taylor M: dumped by a drug addict?
My ex bf began taking cocaine at age 10 as well as drinking and having sex. His parents sent him to a rehab in grade 9 but when he got out he became a dealer and ended up doing time in jail. When he got out he went back to his old ways and ended up leaving a bad breakup of a 3yr relationship/family/fri ends all behind due to owing people money and the consequences he’d face if he stayed.
He moved back to the city where we went to school 10 years later and begged to take me on a date. I was hesitant because he was so bad as a kid and we weren’t friends but I eventually went and fell in love. There were so many ups and downs in the relationship taking money from me, selling his possessions etc. I stuck by him no matter how long he went without talking to me or what he did. I would do anything I could to show how much I cared, gifts, taking him out because he had no $ no job, cards, letters you name it I tried it. I took him on a Caribbean vacation and a week after we got home I was waiting for him to come over and he broke up with me when I called to ask where he was. For almost a month he’d call me on weekends saying he called me by accident b*tch and hang up. When I finally received a nice call he told me he was trying to make me hate him, it was his plan, he had wanted me to tell him to F off, but all I ever said were nice things and he couldn’t understand why I want to talk to him. Things had been good for about 2 months minus the fact he was still hard into cocaine/drinking that of which come before anything else any chance he gets. He always will choose going on benders with his friends over seeing me or any other normal activity. We were talking about what good terms we were on and planning a summer vacation a few days ago when 2 days later I call him and he texts saying “I have a girlfriend” when I called him he was with his friends prob 3 days without sleep on a drug/alcohol spree, I was so shocked and upset, he just told me not to call him, stay the F away from his family etc. I don’t believe he has a gf because I know him well enough to know we wouldn’t have spoke for the last few months if that was the case. I just don’t understand how addicts can abruptly change their minds so quick and lash out for NO reason! I am so hurt and not stupid, I am not happy when we are together because all he wants to do is drugs or drink (which I only drink) but when I am apart from him or know he wont speak to me I am so upset, it hurts to see him do this to himself.. what should I do?
He always says things like ” i wont be around for long” “everyone knows ill die from drugs or alcohol” “i don’t want to stop doing cocaine, its just who i am” “when hes doing the drug he says he doesn’t care about ne thing else except continuing to party” he eventually calms down when the high is over but he paces around cant sit still mumbles, looks through windows freaks out its so scary 🙁
He has a crazy temper and wants to starts fight with friends or anyone, he once threw a 26 across the room full… at the cabin he poured chocolate milk all over his sisters friends because he was mad

Best answer:

Answer by missmojo78
Stop being a doormat! He is taking advantage of you, move on to someone who is going to do something with their life. He will only drag you down.

Answer by watchthesky
you have to leave this guy. as much as you love him, your only hurting youself in this situation. he keeps treating you like crap and your like a doormat your not doing anything about it. if you continue to be with him, no doubt your just gonna get more hurt. why put yourself through that? you’ll find happiness somewhere else

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